” When you love yourself, you will love others. And to the depth and extent to which
you can love yourself, only to that depth and extent will you be able
to Love other.” – Dr. Leo Buscaglia
My sister gave me the book LOVE by Dr. Leo Buscaglia years ago when I was just out of high school. I’ve been fascinated by the subject ever since. While poets and artists explore love, most of the time nobody is ever really taught how to love. In fact, most people are deeply effected by what happens with love disappoints, yet are never enrolled in a “HOW To…” class for love. If you were fortunate enough to learn about love from Dr. Leo himself or other fabulous mentors in your life than you are in the minority. Learning and practicing the art of love is an amazing journey. I hope to continue to raise the bar, not only on my understanding of it, but in my actually ongoing practice of it. Hence the birth of the LOVE Challenge….
Teenage and tweenage years are tough and can challenge the whole family. Add to that there seems to be a trend with younger people towards “mean” humor or teasing written off as “I was only joking.” Oh there is that phrase! I had a friend from Poland who detested how Americans would hide a measure of truth in a biting statement toward a friend and write it off as “I was just joking.”
I have good kids, but I’ve noticed this trend of joking… with their good friends mind you, of mean tones and jabs. Maybe it’s a push back to all the “Anti-Bullying” messages they get. Maybe it’s an offhand way to say something they feel that could be hurtful when said straight out or maybe it’s “just a joke and I don’t get it” like my daughter tells me. But how can you teach anti-bullying or simply speaking with respect to others in a culture with viral Vines/YouTubes showing people doing mean pranks or talking smack to others all under the umbrella of “it’s just a joke?”
While I look around at a lot of humor in our culture, as well as my own comments or actions that occur when I’m stressed or overtired and realize there is plenty of room for improvement.
What If regardless of our outlook, faith or culture we all really took heart with our own actions, comments and reactions to others with this oldie but goodie…
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
– 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
If you’re like me, while I can point my finger at others, it will ultimately end up needing to point back to myself and how I respond to my family, friends and the world.
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” – 1 Corinthians 13: 13
… just sayin’
This Week’s LOVE Challenge:
Simply explore, discover, practice and evolve “LOVE is Patient.”
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* 1 Corinthians 13
* Dr. Leo Buscaglia
* Tara’s LOVE board on Pinterest